Friends,
he is my friend.. from same town in Nepal.. in fact my childhood frend.. . we are more like brothers.. after our master degree in US, I opted for job, and he is doing PhD..
few months now..I notice that he utterly lacks self descipline and concentration.. Every day he says - "OK I will really really do it from tomorrow.. no internet, no surfing .. no news..studies only.. believe me... this is last time.." . And next morning, - "Ok ok, I surf Nepali news headline for 10 mins and then start.. reading.. just 10 mins only". Then when I check him in 1 hour.. he is already beyond nepali news site.. either surfing youtube videos, or some forum threads, or something similar.. He never sleeps before 2 am in night..
He had to submit his research assignment this friday, but he asked for extention and he is supposed to submit it on monday.. Today, he promised me that he will start it after morning breakfast.. but he roamed around the internet aimlessly .. all the day. ..
This evening, after dinner, I talked with him seriously.. But I was surprised ..
He was not telling me.. how much he was trying to get rid of this internet addiction and develope self descipline and concentration.. He had tried writing schedule, different self-control schemes, self-warning letters in diary..any methods he knew or read.. all without my knowledge. This evening, he cried .. he beg for help. He said - he is losing self-confidence.. now he fears he can not complete his PhD.. . He just cried and beg for serious help.. He explained he is not able to controll this net addiction.. I feel so sorry .. I never try to realize it is indeed a problem. It is an addiction...
Because of my work nature, I can not plug out internet cable from modem and say - OK, enough.. no more internet !! But I want to help my friend too.. I dont know what to do. Any suggestions? What you guys do when you have to keep controlled and concerntrated at your study / work / exam preparation..? How you keep motivated in work or study ? Any tips?
Help Please.. thanks.
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