Hello!

I have had a couple of self-assessment sessions last week and I know for a fact that thing that I lack the most is "somat" or "manners" for those who do not know the meaning of the Nepali term.

I don't mean manners as in "Hello", "Good Morning" or "Hold the Door" and "Vacate the Seat for old lady" manners, I mean "somat" as in how I behave with elders.

I constantly find myself having to have a winning argument no matter what side of the argument I am on. I do not hesitate to yell to my elders and people yonger to me alike. I call my elders names and let alone be courteous to them, do not let them speak against my views at all.

The first part of the work is done, I have come to a realization that I need to improve in the areas of gaining back the "somat" I have lost due to various factors, which are not as important as the cause itself. It's pathetic, and I do not want to be "judged" based on how I talk to my people, because I have realized that actions are equally as important as words.

Has anybody ever been through a similar situation and recovered? How should I go about trying to become a better person (not that I am totally clueless, but I figured that the more ways to clean up my act the more efficient I would become in implementing an alternative if one fails).

Maybe some proverbs from good old Grandparents that helped you ? A "plan A" which you replaced by "Plan B" to get more success out of (please give me both plans).. something.. anything.. I really want to become a person with better "somat" than what I am right now... its hard when without help so please help Me. :(

Thank you very much. 

-Dherai Aawaz "Khalisisi"