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Posted on 12-02-09 7:29 AM     Reply [Subscribe]
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Hi All,


I am under the spell of sade saat  ko dasa since few yrs ago and i could feel and experience it. yesterday, another incident occured again. i wrote again because this has happened before.


as a phd stu, u gotta have 5 committee members. nearly two yrs ago, i took qualifying exams and passed them. right after, one of the committee member accused me of smth that i did not do. it was about a project back home for which i was deligently working and in the process, i was writing emails to the group members. he said i was damaging chair persons image (i do not want write more on this but i wasn't doing any sort of that). i explained and told him but he acted like a educated redneck n walked away. i found replacement and did the exams all over again.'


now, another educated moron did the same thing over a simple issue. he told me to contact him about some studies two yrs ago and i did but got no response. i tried but gave up after a while and did self teaching. and finally, i got hold of him yesterday n he goes-since i did not do as he said, he is washing his hands. and i deleted most of the emails recently but our technical dept told me they will try to retrieve those emails. btw, he is known for his obnoxious behavior.


here is wht i am thinking-if i get those emails, i would like to make him pay for the mental torture and the pain i have to go through again in finding another replacement and taking exams again. not to mention, because of this, i will have to extend one more semester which means more money.


any suggestions?? SR


 
Posted on 12-02-09 8:32 AM     Reply [Subscribe]
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you are not the only one victim of office/workplace politics .....i am not following your situation accurately but try to confide in one of your supervisor who likes/trusts you as its very imp to have so allies who will stand by you. Best way to deal with this is to sit down and talk to this redneck one on one..i know so many instances form my friends that these ppl may display such behavious if they see you as threat to their position or just cannot believe why a person from a third world country standing in the same pedestal as you are. if they are super annoying you be super dooper nice...this will bring them in the right place.
 
Posted on 12-02-09 8:57 AM     Reply [Subscribe]
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That is why while forming a committee you have to be very very careful. You have to get committee members who gets along with your advisor very well, or else things can go south at your defense. s_r, at this point i think the only effective step you can take is to go to this person's office, be honest and explain your intensions and talk to him honestly and be clear that you have no ill intensions whatso ever. This might change his perception and be soft on you, since these people have been in your shoes decades ago and they certainly do reflect to the situation they have been before. If he changes his perception and is willing to work with you, good job. if not, you are to be certain he is an educated fool who does not deserve that position.


In my opinion, Ph.D. is a process of not only research but to get entangle in these kind of situations and experience it, so to be a responsible person with tactfulness in future so we can deal with it in future.


Good Luck


 
Posted on 12-03-09 6:00 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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thanks all,


we talked but nothing happened. so, currently i am looking for another replacement and getting ready to through another suffering.


my luck.


 
Posted on 12-04-09 7:51 AM     Reply [Subscribe]
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One thing for sure , Americans are more Hippocrates and they have more ADHD than any one in the world ( यिनी हरु कुरा  चाँहीमिलाएर मिलाएर गर्छन् अनी चाकडी खोज्दछन'), I am coping it too.

 
Posted on 12-04-09 8:20 AM     Reply [Subscribe]
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See, one thing for sure, If your team member is not in constant touch with you just report it to your supervisor/teacher or whoever assigning the task. I did my undergraduate and masters degree from US but haven't gone for PHD but we had group project. There were couple of incidents but most part of the project is the distribution of task. I don't know the nature of your project or task but for me, we gather together and divided the tasks to multiple sections and we divided each section of all of the group members. Once all of you agree then take your part and start work on it.

For me, Most of the case I work in my task on time and also work on whole part. Just gather information on other tasks too so that when its time for the submission some member come with no update and you are in trouble. So, just be ready for disaster. I had a situation at the last hour.

Good Luck. Make sure to create a separate e-mail folder and put all the communication with team on that folder. Never delete anything. Why don't you open a new e-mail address for each project? E-mail is free. You don't have to use school's address for projects.

I am just sharing my experience.

Good Luck.......

 
Posted on 12-04-09 10:11 AM     Reply [Subscribe]
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i found one prof. to replace him and promised myself i will be extra careful from now. will save every email as suggested by PeaceSoul.


now, i have to get time from the new guy to take his oral and written exam.


synjali is right - they like butt kissers even though they don't say it. in this case, nepal is bitter. at least u know u have to be a brown noser no matter what.


yo sade saat ko dasha kahile jala.


 


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