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 Collection of postings of Mr. Babal Khate
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Collection of postings of  Mr. Babal Khate

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Guys,

In Guantanamo prison, isolating Muslim prisoners from each other is a form of way to weaken prisoners.

You know how alive we feel when we are physically in Nepal/Kathmandu and we experience the smells and tastes of Nepal right? So that means that when we are with our family, friends and all that we are familiar with from our childhood--the cultural norms, the role we are supposed to play in society in Nepal, we feel alive as people. We feel like we are living out the purpose that we were born for. Society and our childhood in Nepal has programmed to think and be in a certain way. And when we can act out and be in that way, we feel like we are connecting to our essence. We feel complete. We feel strong, comfortable and confident.

If all the above is true, then does that mean that when we are the opposite--in a foreign country, away from friend's and family, away from the places that were our childhood memory...year after year after year...that we become weaker and more influenceable?

Think about it, even in American football, they have what they call 'home game advantage':
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Home_advantage
In team sports, the term home advantage (also called home field/court/diamond/ice advantage) describes the advantage–usually a psychological advantage–that the home team is said to have over the visiting team as a result of playing in familiar facilities and in front of supportive fans.

So if all the above is true, then that means that the more isolated we get in the United States, the weaker we would become in many ways, no? This is a form of solitary confinement where we cannot associate with the things that we are familiar with:

I was reading about Solitary confinement:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Solitary_confinement#cite_note-8

And a term called segregation psychosis:

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Chaurey,

I think there are different stages that we go through.

1. We first leave Nepal. We realize the opportunities in the States, the freedom, the lack of judgement, the openness. We are excited.
2. We are in unfamiliar territory, new sights, signs, cultural norms, etc--we are scared.
3. As we adapt and achieve in the United States we feel confident
4. We realize that things in Nepal could be better--we feel angry
5. We miss home, we feel remorseful
6. We take advantage of opportunities in the United States and we feel more secure.
7. But year after year we become more and more seperated from the things we are familiar with in Nepal....there is a hollow scream in your heart that you cannot satisfy with anything other than hanging out with other Nepalese or going back to Nepal.
 

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taking a moment to appreciate sajha.com

Many of us that come to sajha.com are immigrants. We are making that transition from Nepali society to adapting in American society. We have our own individual stories. In many ways when we are in Nepal, we have our close friends, family that we can relate with to discuss 'dukha ra sukha ko kura.' The physical proximity between people helps us feel close to them. That all changes when we come to the States.
We exchange familiarity of environment, culture from Nepal for more opportunities in the States. But the nature of our Nepali story changes also once we come to the States. This is why sajha.com is great. Here, in the anonymity of the internet, we all get to talk about our individual circumstances. Sajha.com has changed how I think of my fellow Nepalese brothers and sisters. 

In many ways, to come with the difficulties of being an immigrant, identity crisis, etc we can go to counseling to Americans. We may even go to professional counseling. But, many times we have to translate our Nepali cultural experiences to them. They cannot understand what we are going through at an emotional level, the way another Nepali could.  That is why many of us end up coming to sajha to tell and read other people's stories and find parallels with our own experiences.

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Summer5,

 

I hear your frustration. It sounds like what you are looking for is acceptance. You want to be accepted in a certain identity.

I have experienced the same. My upbringing was complicated like your upbringing. And it brought about a host of problems and issues. And unfortunately, there isn't a lot of support for guys like you and I. We have to weave togethor our own identity from the experiences that we have gone through. It is very challenging. But I am always happy to meet guys like you because we speak a certain language that many other Nepalis don't speak. Maybe the children of many of the Nepalis who have gone abroad will speak this language, but the parents have a hard time relating to the sentiments that we express.

Actually there is a term that describes guys like you and I. It is called - A third culture kid

"someone who, as a child, has spent a significant period of time in one or more culture(s) other than his or her own, thus integrating elements of those cultures and their own birth culture, into a third culture."[

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_culture_kid

Here is an article of a girl who expresses a lot of frustration and anger from going through the experiences that she has gone through as a Third Culture Kid:

http://www.worldweave.com/procon.htm#anchor5249130

I want to understand more of what you're talking about. Tell me more.


 
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