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Enjoyed reading the first half of the column. Lots of funny realistic anecdotes.
There is a lot in the second half that I don't agree with. I think the author has too narrow a view of what works and what does not work in a marriage.... perhaps for a bride to join an extended family, cultural similarities in upbringing can get rid of a lot of friction. BUT, when the married couple lives alone navigating a challenging modernizing world of ever changing value systems that their parents did not face... then similarity in cultural upbringing does NOT matter as much. What matters is a commitment by both to stick together and make things work. I think the first half of the column hinted at something more universal: that ultimately, after the "hype" dies down, one's spouse turns out the be just another human... with strengths and weaknesses, traits one loves, and traits one can't stand... and one just has to find ways to work together navigating the challenges of life... something that is possible as long as both have commitment and trust...

Arnico ji,
I couldn't agree more! After all, complementarity is pivotal to dynamism. And the latter gives momentum and meaning to marriage.

In peace.

Uthyo uthyo uthyo...SimpleGal uthyo...dherai pachhi bihe ko kuro sunne bittikai jaagyo....

SimpleGal, nice to see you back!!! Are you coming to the GBNC New Year's party?

Ma ni S-gal lai Hi bhanna aako, narisaunus hai Logical Sense jyu!

S-gal, long time no hear, kataa ho?

superb. base on reality.

Poonte ji,
You make my day as always. :) Had a good laugh reading your comment. Seriously, hadn't noticed that Bihe ko kura drew me back from my hibernation (hinted at by the words "uthyo" :) )

Arnicoji,
Ke chha haal chaal? Unfortunately, I won't be able to attend the GBNC party. For obvious reasons. Looks like you're back from Ktm. Hope things went well there.

Hi Najar,
Yeah, I have been out for quite some time. Ke garney, life has its weird ways. Take it from the wise one (i.e., Me) hehehe ;)

New Year's Greetings to all!!

In peace.

I wouldn't surprise hearing that in day to day life.It's always easy to suggest in better way and critisize in a felt-like-happen way.The things tke a real views when you are the VICTIM OF THE CIRCUMSTANCE.

Well, MARRIAGE in a western point of views is as sams as we do.After all living the rest of the life bracing each other whether or not seen ever earlier.Like there is no doubt things may/not change in the any given period of time.It is also depend on the character of any individuals.Some clumsy boy stick with lazy girl,some energitic girl stick with puffy old boy.There are some rule-of-attraction which could not apply same to the each human.

For instace, You can find sometime nepali boy living life together with white girl for 12 years.You cannot include the small happenings (ups and down) in the long run life.It is just simple as leaves of the tree touching each other when wind blows or the leafs come to the ground.

Yes,There are something which makes you crazy and that craziness can change your life for ever.You would live the rest of your life regretting with that.What would you do...?? simple is you could say "this is life".But you will think it different when you go further thinking.You cannot simply compare your love/marrige life with PALLA GHAR KA DAMPATTI,THUL DAI RA BHAUJU or the FRIENDS MARRIED LIFE.

I read in novel novelist saying " OH ..!! Why don't i understand that the ugliest man in the earth happens to be marry with the beautiful women and the vice-versa..?"I believe that tyhis is hios point of view that carry the idea of the story.You may think different.

These days in marriage and love HEIGHT/WEALTH/LOOKS/ACTION matters that could go wrong in long term partnership.I believe if it would have been matter in INTEREST/CARING-ATTITUDE/HABIT/TRUSTWORTHY and could certeinly last longer whatsoever and whosoever.

I agree with what you had to say.

ahem ahem.. alicia.. ko umer bhaye jast cha.. yesto yesto kura haru ma agreee garna lagyo hehehe

YB

young mero ta euta sanga bihe bhayera ni divorce bhai sakyo.Aba arko bihe ma bolaula ni.

Alicia Phuchhuuu!!

Timile baal-bibaha gareko ho? Considering the fact that you are just 10 years old???

Arko bihe ma malai pani bolau hai, Dollar store bata Daijo kinera lyaaidinchu!!!

ehh.. Or would you prefer 'Salvation Army'??

Are you done with your 'Online Chat Quiz' yet? sodhyaa ni Phuchchi!!! :D

pujari ji mero server nai ban bhayeko cha.I don't know why. tara anyways , my 11th birthday will be coming in near future so you better wrap up some gifts for me.CHat Quiz tyo chai atti nai bho ( may be I am not that addicted as you are 24/7). my server is banned.you know what the last answer that you guys told me was wrong.hehe.bal biha is legal nowadays no matter what
anyways
thanks

Bal bibaha is legal re??? Since when??

BTW, I didn't answer to your chat quiz hai... that wasn't me. So don't blame me if it was wrong. Thikka paryo!! phuchchi lai!!

So, how old are you turning in your 11th b'day?? just curious ke. Should i buy a clothes for toddlers, ki alikati thulo kinum bhanera ni!!

:D

phuchchhiiii, chuchchiii!! BTW, Server banned re, and yet you are always there...!! Kasari ni??? (thikka paryo :P)

mahile ke bhaneko bujhnu bho lata. I am just banned from one uni not both. I am turning 11 still I bame saring. I made "A" so no point of you saying khcukjhinggggggs. DO you have any idea how to be unbanned. this chat addiction is making me sick. anyways thanks for treating me like a child.Don't try to pull my legs every now and then.keep it up.my goodness.jeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez
lol@you
take care

Phuchchhi!!

Come again!!

Bujhina!!! :(

Congratulation on getting "A" on chatting. Way to go Aliciaa phuchchi!!!
(when did I say KHUCHHHING??? I just said THIKKA PARYO)

What did you do to get banned?? Halla garyo hola chatroom ma!! Ask Neo ni, P'ly he can remove the ban!! :D

pujari baje tapaiko path puja kasto chaldai cha ta.tyo brodle le mero server ban gardiyo.malai tha thiyo. I did nothing wrong. anyways it's not a big deal I can chat from other places.tara still I am trying to manage my anger( anger management).ya I am planning to get degree on chatology from chat univeristy of texas.still three more years to go.hhehe
take care

Bihe garne kurama manual banauna khojne murkhata nagara keta ho.

Mero bihema yasto bhayo ki maile jindagima nasocheko anubhab bhayo.
Lamile bhanyo hajoorlai lyaidinu lyaidinu bhaneko chha pohorai dekhi ho. Didiko paladekhi nai ho bhanyo.
Ma gaye.
Ktko Gharma pugiyo. "Ahile bahini chahi Nadine re. Tara ketoko boli matrai bhayepani sunera chitta bujhaunchhu." Bhanin re hune wala sasule.
Mathi gaiyo baithak kothama. Kura gardai janda Hunewala sasule bhanin "Thuli chhorile pani Bahini ta dini haina eng. lai, malai ta dukha bhayo bhayo uslai nahos, bhaneki chhin. Hami ta dinnam. Khoi kahako Dr, ketole pani mageko chha diiyena... ..."

Ma ta akka na bakka.

Maile manmanai soche "Haina Dr. Engineerlai nadine re, tyaski chhori. Kati padheki rahichha ta ni? Kaslai dine rahichha? Khalasilai?"

"Lamile bhanyo Inter ta sakiyeko hunuparne."

Baulai sodhem.
"Kati ho padhai, Naniko?"
"Khai hajoor Nurse ho ki Commerce malai ta thaha chhaina."
...
Pachhi bujhda IA mai back lagera ladeki rahichhan.
J hos malai hunewala sasule chhori diinan. Hami farkiyo.
... ... ...

Bihe garne kurama manual banauna khojne murkhata nagara keta ho.

Mero bihema yasto bhayo ki maile jindagima nasocheko anubhab bhayo.
Lamile bhanyo hajoorlai lyaidinu lyaidinu bhaneko chha pohorai dekhi ho. Didiko paladekhi nai ho bhanyo.
Ma gaye.
Ktko Gharma pugiyo. "Ahile bahini chahi Nadine re. Tara ketoko boli matrai bhayepani sunera chitta bujhaunchhu." Bhanin re hune wala sasule.
Mathi gaiyo baithak kothama. Kura gardai janda Hunewala sasule bhanin "Thuli chhorile pani Bahini ta dini haina eng. lai, malai ta dukha bhayo bhayo uslai nahos, bhaneki chhin. Hami ta dinnam. Khoi kahako Dr, ketole pani mageko chha diiyena... ..."

Ma ta akka na bakka.

Maile manmanai soche "Haina Dr. Engineerlai nadine re, tyaski chhori. Kati padheki rahichha ta ni? Kaslai dine rahichha? Khalasilai?"

"Lamile bhanyo Inter ta sakiyeko hunuparne."

Baulai sodhem.
"Kati ho padhai, Naniko?"
"Khai hajoor Nurse ho ki Commerce malai ta thaha chhaina."
...
Pachhi bujhda IA mai back lagera ladeki rahichhan.
J hos malai hunewala sasule chhori diinan. Hami farkiyo.
... ... ...
Tara lekheko tardaina kyare mero bihe tyahi kt sita bhayo.

Lekheko tardaina tara mero bihe tyahi ktsita bhayo.
Kina bhayo? Malai pani thaha chhaina. Maile kasaiko badhyatale gareko pani haina.

Lagan ayeko thiyo hola ni.

Tyasaile lagan ayepachhi bihe hunchha timra manualharu advice haruko kamai chhaina.