when i like a girl and i want to go out with her, at the beginning i feel so much attraction and interest in it. but as we start going out, slowly i lost all my attraction and interest to that girl. but i don't know why that happen. so my question to all of you female especially, is this happen to you guys also? be honest with your answer.

Does Not happen to me, But One thing i hate most is to spend hours and hours with a girl in a shoes shops and cloths shop, Jewellery shop and cosmetic shops, and when i go to any computers and electronic shops she gets pissed.

.Peter,

Most guys get attracted to pretty girls (Hot, beautiful). Appearance is what they look at first and that becomes the major factor to get attracted to the girl. But as they start dating or talking, then they feel that appearance is not the only thing. The way they talk, the way they listen to guys, the way they reponse to different situations etc etc are other equally major factors. Probably you have not found that girl who is pretty and equally intelligent, smart, caring. (I know its impossible to find these kinda girls). This might be one reason.

I would say, start dating average looking girl who has a great sense of humor, who is pretty understanding and who tries to solve the problem instead of creating it. You will start loving her.

I think, ditto applies to girls too.

My friend once said this to me when we were boozing, "Don't love a girl for how she looks. Love her for how she talks. Coz, in future, her looks may change with age but the way she talks will live forever."

Having said that, I should also tell you this, if this is not the reason then I am sorry, I dont have any further idea. ;-)

Have a good Thursday.

:-)

couldn't agree more with camo...

peter,
dude, don't just date a girl for the sake of dating. understand her, see if there is a match...don't just go after pretty faces. see if you guys really connect well. means, see if you can talk, talk and talk with her forever - that's very important! pretty face and nice figure do sound inviting, but you're talking about a life-long bond, aren 't u? and for that to sustain, chemistry between partners is very, very important. beauty fades away with time. what remains are values and thinking. see if that resonates.

as camo said, my fren told me that while boozing. am relatively inexperienced myself. :P

btw, how old are you? must be in early 20's or teenage ho? see, if you take my advice, don't go for serious relationships in the early age. hang around with people, both men and women. interact with them as much as possible. a good match takes a considerable time to get figured out....don't commit unless you're sure what you've got is what u wanted. breaking a heart or get broken is NOT AT ALL a pleasant experience, it hurts!!!!

don't believe in love at first sight. it takes time to know a person better. a nice looking cake with perfect icing on top may not always taste good, if the bread that comes up with it is not good.

good luck!
LooTe

I can not produce expert advice as camo or Loote...Still would like to express my sincere 2 cents...

Falling in a LOVE and Planning a Love are two different things ...As product has a saturated point,Interest towards opposite sex saturates as time passes by..Every product has different saturation point,Interest to your opposite mate vary based on attributes he/she has..(It is just an analogy,it is not my intention to compare people with product)..

Camo and Loote are 2 different creatures of the world and they have two different perceptions and taste So as Other people...

one more thing...

it's easy to fall in love, and it's EQUALLY easy to get out of it :P, if you're NOT serious about it. just like achieving something is relatively easier than maintaining the successful status throughout your career, falling in love comes easily but maintaining the bond between partners requires some effort in both the partner's parts.

you've got to respect what you've got. remember human nature is very uncanny and there is always a tendency, albeit in various magnitudes, to find solace in what others have than in what you have. as they say, grass looks greener in the other side of the field. so, respect what you've been bestowed with...making or breaking a relationship is in your hand. try to find a comfort zone between you two and try your best to amplify it with time. know what i'm saying?

you've got to compromise or even sacrifice to some extent and there could be times when you've got to let it go. too much of ego ain't good for any. of course, one cannot forcefully compromise to help in maintaining a relationship. you've to find the limit and push yourself towards it, if need be. no one's perfect. it's not like what u see in movies, you meet with her, eyes meet and then tujhe dekha to yeh jaana sanam, pyar hota hai deewaana sanam, HELL NO!....reality is quite different and you have to get used to it. don't dream too much or live for too long in the fantasyland. he, who can deal with the reality, face it's music and come out as a winner, is the MAN!!!!

i believe, same applies to women.

LooTe

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If you lose attraction or whatever with her on the very first date , dont move any further! The person who is gonna be your girl - you have to find a comfort in , from the very dawn of the relationship !!!