What Do Women Consider Good Sex?
By Melissa LaRicca
Women's Sexuality Correspondent - Every 2nd Tuesday


Many men have asked me to describe what makes sex good for women. While I would love to be able to turn you all into Don Juans for the sake of women everywhere, the simple truth is that "good sex" entails different things for different women.
Therefore, I decided to conduct an informal survey, asking various women the question: "What makes for good sex?" Some of their answers may surprise you. In any case, you're bound to get a few ideas as to the little things you can do to make your woman squeal.

"Give me a roaring fire, a glass of Merlot, a chocolate souffle, and hungry eyes, and the rest takes care of itself. You just have to give in and let things happen."
- Lori, 26, chef

"I like a man who's able to take charge while still remaining a gentleman. Someone who can be firm and gentle at the same time. Show me you're a man by treating me like a woman. You know what I mean?"
- Felisha, 28, artist

"Foreplay, foreplay and foreplay. Good sex always starts way before the actual sex even begins. The guy has to seduce all my senses first. Whisper dirty things in my ear, kiss my neck, run your fingers up and down my back, and give me goose bumps. Make my clothes come off by themselves."
- Meredith, 24, waitress

"It depends what mood my man and I are in. Sometimes slow and drawn out lovemaking is the order of the day, while other times, we just rip each other's clothes off and get it on fast and hard."
- Chantal, 29, actress

"I love it when my boyfriend teases me before we actually have sex; it always makes it so much better. Like, if he kisses and caresses the areas surrounding my breasts and vagina, such as my upper torso and inner thighs, getting me increasingly excited, before going down on me slowly. And then penetrating me with only the tip of his penis for a while, until I am so hot and bothered that it would be cruel and unusual not to penetrate me completely."
- Kristine, 20, student

"In a word: spontaneity. The best sex usually happens when you least expect it. Like if you both get really turned on suddenly while you're painting the house and you end up having sex right there on the paint-covered sheets; that's hot."
- Gina, 31, interior designer

"I like it when the guy is in tune with me. I mean, start off slow and pick-up the pace gradually. Start with a position that allows us both to get comfortable and feel each other out and go from there. Just not forcing anything too quickly, I guess. Guys don't realize how far things can go if they're patient."
- Julie, 25, kindergarten teacher