http://www.nepalnews.com/archive/2005/nov/nov07/news15.php

Divorce rate growing in Kathmandu

Cases of divorce are growing in Kathmandu thanks to growing domestic violence and social-economic problems.

A record made available by the Kathmandu District Court shows that a total of 597 cases were registered in Kathmandu district in the year 2061/62 B.S. out of which 198 cases are yet to be decided. The number of divorce cases filed at the district court the previous year was 560 of which 351 cases were decided.

128 divorce cases were registered in first three months of the current fiscal year, court officials informed.

?Domestic violence is the major cause behind growing divorce rate,? points out Basanti Shrestha, an advocate at the Legal Aid and Consultancy Center (LACC).

She added, ?Most divorce cases are related to love marriages but there are also few cases in which husband and wife seek divorce after spending as many as than 20 years together?.

?As far as filing divorce case is concerned, females are ahead of males because women can directly file petition at the district court while males are required to file cases in the municipal office at first,? she explained.

Analyzing the cause of divorce from sociological point of view, Chandra Kanta Gyawali, a sociologist and a lawyer, said, ?It primarily depends on how the couples were socialized in the society before they got married. It is the environment in which they grew up that decides their mindset. And, if their way of thinking differs, it ends up in a split.?

?Divorce does not always cause harm to social order. Sometimes it becomes the only way out for married couples who find it difficult to give continuity to their relationship and seek a way-out,? he added. . nepalnews.com Neetu Dubey Nov 07 05

I think ...It is in some way good news that now Women n Man able can correcting thier mistake< if they think it is>. It is not worth liiving together if couples are not happy

I am wondering why the divorce rate is higher in case of love marriage. in love marriage people are suppose to know well each other for a longer period than most of the arranged marriage cases. or it is big difference in love and marriage? sometimes i think, in case of arrange marrige, parents try to get best suitable partner for their kids with respect to all qualities such as education/ financial status/ look and everthing and in that case the only unknown thing is thinking between two partnes. however in case of love marriage, we do nt see all those before making decisions and may be some of those fall short during the long run and can not go together. anyways, i am marrying my love and had not i been in love, i would have gone for arrange.

First of all, this news may be bad for the society but for the couples involved, it may be a key to the shackle of physical and mental pain, injustice and overall unhappiness, which have been tied on them. Or this could also mean that the nepali women are being more vocal to gain their rights and lift themselves up to the level of life and freedom men of Nepalese society have been enjoying.

Regarding the divorce rates being high in love marriage than arrange marriage, it won?t be too long for than to change.
Couples in arranged marriage have moral obligation towards their parents, relatives or whoever paired them up to stay in the relationship. Moreover, arranged marriage are more male dominant than love marriage as they follow the old social view of a married couple. Or may be arranged marriage is less likely to fail due to infidelity because the couples may never be physically attracted to each other and that each one could care less if the other one actually commits adultery. In fact, each partner may silently even wish for the other one to spend as less time as possible in bed or even in the house.
But love marriage is different. In most of the love marriages, the couples are equally vocal about each other?s needs. They have chosen to marry their partner because they thought that would bring them happiness. Likewise they choose to divorce their partner thinking that doing so would bring their happiness back. Arranged marriage restricts this social right from the couples as third party are the choosers of bride and groom. And to being with couples in love marriage have defied the society?s traditional way of viewing marriage and how it should be done for their own happiness, and they will defy the same society by following divorce for their own happiness again.

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What about the interest rate ? Return on investment rate ?Unemployment rate ? GDP rate ? Crude Oil rate ? Minimum wage rate ? I am sure all these others rates are affecting that rate !

To me, all I see is the marriage rate, which seem to be declining... since I am still unmarried... hah!!!

Who's gonna ride your wild horses???

Growing divorce is a sign of democracy and education.

Previously the divorce rate was very low because women would be forced to take any kind of bullshit that their man was giving them. Now women are more independent and educated and are able to practice their right to live their way and not have to follow the psychotic whims of their husbands.

yep i agree with you all..divorce is a sign of freedom and idndependence..

But with all my modern knowledge and that of my own fiance sowing wild oats everywhere...the last bump before i get to say I do is the fear of a possible divorce.
I rather wait one million years than to get married so i can divorce...

Sometimes I feel most people are too irrational and today's mindset they are not patient to evn try to fix things...I have had one million rrealtionships myself..and all they taught me was that I am solely responsible to make or break a realtionship...to make your other half understand is the extra effort you "choose" to put in...and ift hat's not your chooice you slip...

"I have had one million rrealtionships myself"

Hush, so when you get married, your husband will truly be one-in-a-million, eh? ;)

LOL

Hope all else is well.

I have a different take on why love marriage could have a higer rate (in Nepal where the definition of love is more likely to take a hindi movie turn)...of course some of the stuffs said above is also correct:

In love marriage both of you come with high expectation of each other,and you tend to ignore the basic things that make the marriage work in the long run, like compromise and understanding for example. So little things can explode to something big.

In the case of arrange marriage, you dive into it with a mental attituted to compromise, because it is a compromise to marry someone who you don't know to begin with.The expectation is lower and so little things that get in the way remains little...

But what do I know...I am not married yet ;)