Some misplaced patriots may be up in arms about this but I don't think it is wrong to accept reality. When you think about Nepal, it may conjure up a lot of good memories and feeling of connections to friends and families but we don't generally proceed further to accept few bitter truth about why Nepal is still the way it is.

There is utter waste of resources in a country that lacks resources.
There is a culture of lavish show off, which cannot be good for anyone. Even ones without resources are supposed to do everything like they can afford it.

What kind of backward culture is that which asks for this kind of commitment? 

In the end it all boils down to religion and culture. Culture says this has to be done because of religious beliefs.

The old generation are still visciously tied to the above culture of waste and show off. In order to move forward it is upto the new generation to refuse to practice such nonsense customs.

The grass root movement for change has to come from religious grounds by questioning religious practices. Only then we can amend the way we live our lives and stop doing the unnecessary things we do.

 Grgdai, I see what you are pointing at but I can't completely agree with you. Here's why:

"There is utter waste of resources in a country that lacks resources."
- It has been the same since ages so we can't just blame on religion, culture, and our old folks now. But,can something be done now that we are conscious about the resources going waste? Definitely! 

"There is a culture of lavish show off, which cannot be good for anyone. Even ones without resources are supposed to do everything like they can afford it."
- I agree with this a little bit. Yes, people tend to be showy but do you really think our culture is the cause of that? I don't think so. I never learned how to be showy from our culture and traditions. If I am showy in any aspects, that will be because of my human nature. It's natural to try being different/superior than others. If you are talking about Dashain, expenses, Khasi katne, naya luga, gharma naya paint, etc, then those who try to show off although they can't afford are just foolish. Again, human nature to be better than others is the main cause behind that, not the culture. And hey, nobody is "supposed to do everything like they can afford it"; it all depends on what they want to do, not what we want them to do.

"What kind of backward culture is that which asks for this kind of commitment? "
- As i said earlier, nobody is asking for commitment, nobody is being forced to do something. It's all their spontaneous action.

"In the end it all boils down to religion and culture. Culture says this has to be done because of religious beliefs."
- This is where I disagree with you the mose. Religion is not forcing anyone to do anything. You might say that people are obliged to slaughter animals to show devotion to gods and goddessess but there are people who don't slaughter animals and are still worshipping gods and goddessess and are enjoying the festival equally if not more than those who slaughtered animals. Has anything bad happened to those who didn't offer animals and have those who sacrificed animals progressed much better than the ones who didn't sacrifice animals? I bet not. You can't just blame religion and culture for bad/unethical things people do. I'd rather blame them and their nature.

"The old generation are still visciously tied to the above culture of waste and show off. In order to move forward it is upto the new generation to refuse to practice such nonsense customs."
- Really? You think so? I think the opposite - the young generation is more showy than the old. Look around and compare an old man with a man in his 20s? Who is more showy? Who wants better things? Definitely the one in his 20s right? Now you might say, well the technology has made life much easier these days and things develop quick and it's natural to desire something better. But, do we really need all the best things in this world? Do we need a fancy iphone with all bells and whistles while a simple flip phone can call/text/browse web? And if you see the bank account of that person, he is in the situation where he needs fo borrow money from his friend to prevent overdraft. People in the past were much more content than we are now. 
But you are right, we need to stop doing this! We need to keep materialism to its limit. Stop showing off and just be what you are. 

"The grass root movement for change has to come from religious grounds by questioning religious practices. Only then we can amend the way we live our lives and stop doing the unnecessary things we do."
- Let me ask you a question: What do you mean by the unnecessary things we do? We do a lot of unnecessary things, don't we? Are they all related to religion? NO! So, blaming religion is not the solution. If you are talking about practices like accusing people of witchcraft, discrimination based on caste/religion, etc - yes they are related to religion and we need to grow up. But other things like showing off how rich you are by buying a big car although you don't need it, slaughtering a goat on Dashain by borrowing money, etc are dependent on an individual and you can't really blame religion for that. Hindu religion and culture is very rich, it's unique and the world had praised it. There are some malpractices within Hindu religion and culture and we  definitely need to improve them but it's not wise to blame Nepal, Nepali, and it's culture and traditions for every stupid thing one does.

Jantare,
When I say that, I don't mean 100% are like that. I am sure you understand that.

"There is utter waste of resources in a country that lacks resources."
- Religion and culture created wasteful practices and it's been going on for a very long time. That's why we need to reconsider many practices. Like for example paasni, bratbandha, gufaa, marriage, etc. Back in the days, the women didn't work, there weren't a lot of people in the planet so you didn't have a lot of relatives so having a party was easier. Not trying to be sexist but thats how it was back then. All the women spend their whole time in kitchen and there were parties for the few relatives one had. Just to get an idea, 100 years back the population of Nepal was about 5 million or less, and now it's 30 million. So if back then you had to call 50 relatives for your marriage you have to call 300 just by linear logic. If you consider the population of the cities then it might even be 50 times more. So it does not make sense to keep on doing it this way.

Not only such religious activities on personal level but also religious festivals which consume so much energies and affect the economies of scale in todays world versus back in the days.

So now we definitely have to do something about it rather than following it blindly even in the present context.

"There is a culture of lavish show off, which cannot be good for anyone. Even ones without resources are supposed to do everything like they can afford it."
- Like in marriage there are so many processes such as supari, mukh herne and I can't even think about what else is involved where the participants are expected to 'show their wealth and status'. On top of that the irreputable dowry system still exists. I am not talking about individuals showing off with their Iphones or nice cars, but talking about social customs which expect you to show off.

"In the end it all boils down to religion and culture. Culture says this has to be done because of religious beliefs."
- You say that thare are lot of people who don't sacrifice but they also have fun. You are absolutely correct, but if you look at the numbers the ratio, what are the percentage of those? I think more people indulge in these religious extremeties than those who don't. Just look at that amount of excess that religion forces people to undertake. Is it all necessary? Like let's go back to paasni, bratbandha,gufa etc. Do you really need to call 700 people to five star hotel to show that you are doing well at every single religious events? The amount of useless sacrifice of animals is also excessive and brutal in so many case. Torturing animals for religious practices in public. Possibly people didn't have much to do 100s of years ago when such practice were created so maybe it was for public entertainment but in this day and age those practice needs to be stopped!

"What kind of backward culture is that which asks for this kind of commitment? "

- You said it was spontaenous, but cultural practices are far from being spontaneous! You have to follow a certain ritual in order to feel like you are in an OK term with the all mighty, otherwise even harm may come to you or your family so you feel obligated to do it. If you don't walk around the ganesh temple when you pass by, you feel like the god may curse you. It is the religeous beliefs that ask for commitment from you. Commitment for you to be obligated to do a lot of things that don't make any sense.

"The old generation are still visciously tied to the above culture of waste and show off. In order to move forward it is upto the new generation to refuse to practice such nonsense customs."

- The new mature generation is still tied to the old generations religious practices. They still have to attend to torturous murder of animals in public like that is salvation. They still have to tag along with their parents to parties where they know noone. They still have to agree to marry someone from their own caste. The list will go on for the unnecessary things that the new generation is being forced to do because of religion and culture.

Religion is not to be blamed. Its my personal opinion but I think all the religious books are like constitution in the old days. They didn't had many officers to enforce the law, so they try to scare the people who break the law with all the nonsense. Most of the religious books are trying to maintain order and at the same time trying to discourage the revolution, same thing a constitution does.